My Grammers was a very lively woman. That is how I will always remember her. When I was little she would always be ready to go, determined to try something new or to have another adventure. Once we met her at the LA airport during her layover to Australia. At the time I was thinking, "You do realise that Australia is VERY far away?" But Grandma didn't care, it was another place to see, to experience.
My Grandma danced through life that way, sometimes literally. I recall her once telling me, while trying to teach me to ballroom dance in my Dad's kitchen, that she had many different dance partners at her club and that was how she liked it. If one person was better at one dance than the others she would choose to dance with him, and too bad for the other guys. She valued her toes too much!
That is just the way she was. Not afraid of expressing herself or her opinions. Often she expressed these opinions in a very determined way that some people couldn't understand, but ultimately, we all know she did it from a place of love. Where Jenny and I were concerned, she was the best Grandma anyone could ever have. She cooked fresh Polish food for us, taught us to dance, took us to the beach, let us experience all sorts of things with her, and defended us when she felt we needed defending.
She was always my advocate when I needed my father to understand a girl's point of view. For example, I remember her saying one time, yes Richie, your daughter needs to spend that much on a prom dress for her senior year. Leave it to Grammers to understand what a pretty dress does for a girl!
Memories come flooding back to me as I think of all the times I was lucky enough to spend with Stella. The last time I really spent time with her alone was when I had the chicken pox at 19. She nursed me back to health, banging around in the kitchen to make me homemade chicken soup and fresh strawberry jam. During that time she told me tons of stories about my Grandpa Buddy, cheering me up with his antics, even though I felt miserable.
Through her I first learned what a crazy and zany grandpa I had. She really loved him, despite how exasperated she seemed to get with him, she always had a smile on her face, and a glint of laughter in her eye as she told his stories.
She would always giggle when she saw Jenny or I because she was so excited to see us. I remember her dog Cleo and the way she would talk to her as if she were a very good friend. I remember how she loved cardinals because they were such pretty, cheerful looking birds. Stella was a very proud, independent and determined woman. Some people saw it as stubborn, but hey, she married an Arnold, and knowing them and that stubborn streak of theirs, she needed to be able to keep up.
Lastly, and I think this memory sums up best what Stella represented to me. My favorite memory of her is when Jenny and I were very young, staying with her one summer in Rhode Island. One day she told us to get our suits on and get ready to go to the beach. As we were getting ready, Jenny and I heard a bouncing sound. Anxious to find the source Jenny and I ran into our Grandma's room. And there Stella was, bouncing up and down on the bed, looking at herself in her large mirror to see how she looked in her swimsuit. That is how I will remember her best, full of life, ready for what the world had to offer, already onto her next great adventure. Go for it Grammers, you will always be in my heart.
Saturday, 15 November 2008
Saturday, 23 August 2008
Must See Movies Part One-Musicals!
Well ladies and gentleman . . . . a few months ago some friends asked me to make up a list of black and white movies that are worth watching even today. I have finally come up with lists and summaries of my favourite classic movies. The largest list is black and white classics, but I also put in some older colour classics and musicals that I believe are worth seeing as well. I tried to pick most of these movies from the sixties or before. Some of you probably will disagree with some of my choices, that is fine. Others will notice that certain movies, such as 12 Angry Men, aren't present in my list. I chose movies that I can watch, and have, time and time again. 12 Angry Men isn't one of those movies, sorry Mom. I chose movies that no matter how many times I have seen them I still laugh or cry. These are my must see musical flicks . . . .
Musicals
Singing in the Rain
Gene Kelly, Donald O'Connor, and Debbie Reynolds
Gene Kelly is a famous silent film actor ready to make his big break into sound movies. Unfortunately, his usual costar in movies has a voice like nails on a chalkboard, not kidding at all. But thanks to the help of his trusty best friend and sidekick, Donald O' Connor, he finds a dub over replacement in Debbie Reynolds. This movie has some of the best musical numbers and comedy ever created in the golden age of musicals. On the AFI and Imdb lists it is number one for musicals. Make em laugh baby!
Oklahoma
Oh the sounds of the Earth are like music! One of my favourites. . . I have seen both the movie and the stage play. Cowboy Curly loves stubborn headed farmer Laurie but can't seem to get up the courage to ask her to the next dance in town. Unfortunately, her shady field hand, Jud, beats Curly to it and then all kinds of comedy, great dancing and drama happen based around the stubborn lovers. Gordon MacRae and Shirley Jones also appear in Carousel further down on my list.
The Music Man
This is one of those movies that is just good fun to watch. You have Robert Preston playing a sleezy traveling salesman, whom you actually come to love, as he swindles a town out of their money by promising a boys band. Buddy Hackett plays his great sidekick, and young Ron Howard plays the little boy whose unconditional faith in Preston's character turns him around, not to mention his hot sister, Shirley Jones. Trust me, the dances and music are top notch!
Carousel
Ahhhh, one of the best stories and the saddest story ever. Brilliant! The scene opens with Billy, Gordan MacRae, in heaven cleaning stars. Someone comes up to him and says he has a chance to go back and visit his loved ones, cause they're in trouble, but he has to tell his story of how he ended up dying and leaving them first. He is rough around the edges, but soon you discover he really did love his wife Julie and wants to truly help his daughter Louise. At the same time, he blames himself for their situation. 'If I Loved You' is one of the best songs ever written and will give you goosebumps everytime you hear it. I cannot recommend this one enough!
Calamity Jane
Loosely based on the story of the actual Calamity Jane, Jane Canary, this is a great classic musical with Doris Day at her comical best and Howard Keel as Wild Bill Hicock. There are plenty of great numbers such as 'A Woman's Touch', 'My Secret Love' and my personal favourite, 'I Could Do Without You!'
Seven Brides for Seven Brothers
Another one with Howard Keel . . . lets just say I had a crush on him and probably always will. He plays Adam, eldest brother of seven young men living alone up in the mountains. Once he convinces Jane Powell to be his wife thing change for these scruffy wild young men. First she cleans them up, then she teaches them manners. Unfortunately the men of the town don't like the competition when it comes to the single women in the town. I think, that this has one of the best dance numbers EVER as the town men try to outdo the brothers at a barn dance.
Show Boat
Kathryn Grayson plays the naive daughter of a show boat owner who falls in love with a slick gambler. Luckily for her, a guardian angel in the form of Ava Gardner helps her through the ups and downs of loving a gambler. Great classic songs such as, 'Can't Help Loving that Man of Mine' and 'Make Believe'
Meet Me in St. Louis
Classic story of a turn of the century family as they and all of St. Louis get ready for the World's Fair. Judy Garland is gorgeous and timeless as she tries to woo the boy next door. Her younger sibling, Tootie, is hilarious as she tries not to be treated like a small fragile little girl. Great music, 'The Trolley Song' and 'Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas' make this a classic.
White Christmas
This is probably one of the few show musicals, musicals whose stories are based around a show, that I actually like. Two showmen, Bing Crosby and Danny Kaye, who met while serving in WW2 try to save their commanding officer's ski resort by throwing a show right at Christmas. The only problem, no snow. How can they have a white Christmas without snow? There is a great number where Danny Kaye and Bing Crosby dress in drag . . . not kidding at all!
Silk Stockings
Fred Astaire plays a showman who is trying to put together a movie about Napoleon in Paris with music written by a famous Russian composer. Only problem, Russia wants their composer back. They send the beautiful, but VERY strict, Cyd Charisse to fetch their wayward artist. But what happens when she starts to realise that a capitalistic life isn't all that bad, especially if Fred Astaire is going to be in that life?
Brigadoon
Out in the highlands, the highlands of Scotland . . . legend has it that a town called Brigadoon only appears for one day out of every 100 years. Fortunately for Gene Kelly and Van Johnson, two hunters from New York, they stumble upon the town on one of those very rare days. Not realising the town's unique history, the men are confused by the daily life and chores of the people and charmed, or at least Gene Kelly is, by the beautiful Scottish beauty Fiona, played by the late and great Cyd Charisse. When the two dance together you see why she was nicknamed, 'Best Legs in Hollywood' I wanted to be like her when I grew up because she was just so beautiful and graceful.
Guys and Dolls
Fun musical with Frank Sinatra and Marlon Brando, and yes he actually sings very well. They play two gangsters with women problems, police problems and conscience problems as well. Great numbers such as 'Luck Be a Lady Tonight' and 'I Got a Horse Right Here'. This one actually is more of a guys musical if ever there was one.
Musicals
Singing in the Rain
Gene Kelly, Donald O'Connor, and Debbie Reynolds
Gene Kelly is a famous silent film actor ready to make his big break into sound movies. Unfortunately, his usual costar in movies has a voice like nails on a chalkboard, not kidding at all. But thanks to the help of his trusty best friend and sidekick, Donald O' Connor, he finds a dub over replacement in Debbie Reynolds. This movie has some of the best musical numbers and comedy ever created in the golden age of musicals. On the AFI and Imdb lists it is number one for musicals. Make em laugh baby!
Oklahoma
Oh the sounds of the Earth are like music! One of my favourites. . . I have seen both the movie and the stage play. Cowboy Curly loves stubborn headed farmer Laurie but can't seem to get up the courage to ask her to the next dance in town. Unfortunately, her shady field hand, Jud, beats Curly to it and then all kinds of comedy, great dancing and drama happen based around the stubborn lovers. Gordon MacRae and Shirley Jones also appear in Carousel further down on my list.
The Music Man
This is one of those movies that is just good fun to watch. You have Robert Preston playing a sleezy traveling salesman, whom you actually come to love, as he swindles a town out of their money by promising a boys band. Buddy Hackett plays his great sidekick, and young Ron Howard plays the little boy whose unconditional faith in Preston's character turns him around, not to mention his hot sister, Shirley Jones. Trust me, the dances and music are top notch!
Carousel
Ahhhh, one of the best stories and the saddest story ever. Brilliant! The scene opens with Billy, Gordan MacRae, in heaven cleaning stars. Someone comes up to him and says he has a chance to go back and visit his loved ones, cause they're in trouble, but he has to tell his story of how he ended up dying and leaving them first. He is rough around the edges, but soon you discover he really did love his wife Julie and wants to truly help his daughter Louise. At the same time, he blames himself for their situation. 'If I Loved You' is one of the best songs ever written and will give you goosebumps everytime you hear it. I cannot recommend this one enough!
Calamity Jane
Loosely based on the story of the actual Calamity Jane, Jane Canary, this is a great classic musical with Doris Day at her comical best and Howard Keel as Wild Bill Hicock. There are plenty of great numbers such as 'A Woman's Touch', 'My Secret Love' and my personal favourite, 'I Could Do Without You!'
Seven Brides for Seven Brothers
Another one with Howard Keel . . . lets just say I had a crush on him and probably always will. He plays Adam, eldest brother of seven young men living alone up in the mountains. Once he convinces Jane Powell to be his wife thing change for these scruffy wild young men. First she cleans them up, then she teaches them manners. Unfortunately the men of the town don't like the competition when it comes to the single women in the town. I think, that this has one of the best dance numbers EVER as the town men try to outdo the brothers at a barn dance.
Show Boat
Kathryn Grayson plays the naive daughter of a show boat owner who falls in love with a slick gambler. Luckily for her, a guardian angel in the form of Ava Gardner helps her through the ups and downs of loving a gambler. Great classic songs such as, 'Can't Help Loving that Man of Mine' and 'Make Believe'
Meet Me in St. Louis
Classic story of a turn of the century family as they and all of St. Louis get ready for the World's Fair. Judy Garland is gorgeous and timeless as she tries to woo the boy next door. Her younger sibling, Tootie, is hilarious as she tries not to be treated like a small fragile little girl. Great music, 'The Trolley Song' and 'Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas' make this a classic.
White Christmas
This is probably one of the few show musicals, musicals whose stories are based around a show, that I actually like. Two showmen, Bing Crosby and Danny Kaye, who met while serving in WW2 try to save their commanding officer's ski resort by throwing a show right at Christmas. The only problem, no snow. How can they have a white Christmas without snow? There is a great number where Danny Kaye and Bing Crosby dress in drag . . . not kidding at all!
Silk Stockings
Fred Astaire plays a showman who is trying to put together a movie about Napoleon in Paris with music written by a famous Russian composer. Only problem, Russia wants their composer back. They send the beautiful, but VERY strict, Cyd Charisse to fetch their wayward artist. But what happens when she starts to realise that a capitalistic life isn't all that bad, especially if Fred Astaire is going to be in that life?
Brigadoon
Out in the highlands, the highlands of Scotland . . . legend has it that a town called Brigadoon only appears for one day out of every 100 years. Fortunately for Gene Kelly and Van Johnson, two hunters from New York, they stumble upon the town on one of those very rare days. Not realising the town's unique history, the men are confused by the daily life and chores of the people and charmed, or at least Gene Kelly is, by the beautiful Scottish beauty Fiona, played by the late and great Cyd Charisse. When the two dance together you see why she was nicknamed, 'Best Legs in Hollywood' I wanted to be like her when I grew up because she was just so beautiful and graceful.
Guys and Dolls
Fun musical with Frank Sinatra and Marlon Brando, and yes he actually sings very well. They play two gangsters with women problems, police problems and conscience problems as well. Great numbers such as 'Luck Be a Lady Tonight' and 'I Got a Horse Right Here'. This one actually is more of a guys musical if ever there was one.
Thursday, 24 July 2008
A Year in England and Language Lessons
Well, it has almost been a year since I moved across an ocean for a dream come true. Have I learned anything? Oh yes, loads. I have learned how to transfer money internationally to pay my student loans, pay taxes from a different country, and get my license renewed through the mail. I have also learned how to cook curry, transfer cat records, and travel by train by myself across the country. I have learned what it is like to make friends from all over the world and try to understand their different quirks and customs. I have learned how to speak an entirely different language, and I DO mean English! I have learned how to have a long term relationship with someone and how friendship definitely has to be at the heart of it for the whole thing to work. But the most important thing I have learned is that if you want to make your dreams come true, the number one person that is holding you back is normally the person you see in the mirror. Once you get that person out of the way dreams are a snap! What do I mean? I mean I always kept telling myself I couldn't do it, listened to others who said the same, therefore I believed it. Once I started telling myself I could do it and only listened to that one little voice (and brought out some long suppressed Arnold stubbornness), well here I am a year later. I have now seen Paris, climbed the Eiffel Tower, seen the Mona Lisa, seen the Stone of Destiny, seen the great expanse of English moors, seen the haunted gallery and the maze at Hampton Court Palace, touched Queen Elizabeth's tomb in Westminster Abbey, and been in two rooms where kings were born. I have dined or had a pint where great works of literature have been written, seen Eloise and Abelard, walked in the footsteps of Shakespeare, Jane Austen and Charles Dickens.
This coming year I hope to see Ann Frank's house, where Horatio Nelson died, Pocahontas, walk through Munich and see where Jesse Owens ran, possibly go to Portugal, and bring the love of my life home to meet my father and mother.
People still ask is London everything you ever wanted. The answer is still Oh Yes and MORE! Everyday I still pinch myself and think how blessed I am. I love England and don't ever want to leave. I have a feeling that I think of it the same way Dad feels about Montana. Maybe that is why he is so understanding about it. Thanks Dad.
Well, I have been promising you a list of some of the language barriers I have had to cross this year. Here are a few of them. . . .
fanny-pretty much not a good word to say around here, means pretty much the same as the c word for female parts. We don't say fanny packs over here, we say bum bags . . . Mum take note.
pint-beer
tube-underground
boot-trunk of a car
garage-pronounced almost like garrish
mobile-cell phone, they don't say cell, they say mobile
cooker-oven
lift-elevator
coach-bus for a long journey
tights-panty hose
chemist-pharmacy
tyres-this one is so hard to explain I will leave it up to Steve when you meet him
nappy-diaper
pram-stroller
jab-a shot from the doctor
kicking off-throwing a tantrum
grass-to tell on someone
bag-purse
rucksack-backpack
coat-jacket
sofa-couch
quid-pound
trousers-pants
pants-underwear
cash point-ATM
that's sick-that's cool!
midges-mini mosquitoes that don't really bite too bad
stag do-bachelor party
hen do-bachelorette party
disco-dance night at a pub
curry-anything Indian to eat, not necessarily with curry in it
jalapenos are pronounced halapino, with no yo sound at the end. It is quite funny. Tacos are almost pronounced with a long a, as is salsa. Trust me, I am correcting as I go.
I also would like to see more of you coming to visit me. I miss you and would love to show you my new home.
Lastly, thank you Parnell. Without you, none of this would be possible. You changed my life and made all my dreams come true. Everything I have now, I have thanks to you. God Bless.
Love,
Cory
This coming year I hope to see Ann Frank's house, where Horatio Nelson died, Pocahontas, walk through Munich and see where Jesse Owens ran, possibly go to Portugal, and bring the love of my life home to meet my father and mother.
People still ask is London everything you ever wanted. The answer is still Oh Yes and MORE! Everyday I still pinch myself and think how blessed I am. I love England and don't ever want to leave. I have a feeling that I think of it the same way Dad feels about Montana. Maybe that is why he is so understanding about it. Thanks Dad.
Well, I have been promising you a list of some of the language barriers I have had to cross this year. Here are a few of them. . . .
fanny-pretty much not a good word to say around here, means pretty much the same as the c word for female parts. We don't say fanny packs over here, we say bum bags . . . Mum take note.
pint-beer
tube-underground
boot-trunk of a car
garage-pronounced almost like garrish
mobile-cell phone, they don't say cell, they say mobile
cooker-oven
lift-elevator
coach-bus for a long journey
tights-panty hose
chemist-pharmacy
tyres-this one is so hard to explain I will leave it up to Steve when you meet him
nappy-diaper
pram-stroller
jab-a shot from the doctor
kicking off-throwing a tantrum
grass-to tell on someone
bag-purse
rucksack-backpack
coat-jacket
sofa-couch
quid-pound
trousers-pants
pants-underwear
cash point-ATM
that's sick-that's cool!
midges-mini mosquitoes that don't really bite too bad
stag do-bachelor party
hen do-bachelorette party
disco-dance night at a pub
curry-anything Indian to eat, not necessarily with curry in it
jalapenos are pronounced halapino, with no yo sound at the end. It is quite funny. Tacos are almost pronounced with a long a, as is salsa. Trust me, I am correcting as I go.
I also would like to see more of you coming to visit me. I miss you and would love to show you my new home.
Lastly, thank you Parnell. Without you, none of this would be possible. You changed my life and made all my dreams come true. Everything I have now, I have thanks to you. God Bless.
Love,
Cory
Thursday, 3 July 2008
Independence Day!
Hello everyone!
I am wearing red, white and blue today as I work on 4th of July. What? The English don't celebrate it? ;-) Well tonight I thought you might find it ironic that me, an American, will be celebrating it exclusively with the English I consider my friends. A lot of our friends are coming out to party with us as I celebrate 4th of July. No fireworks I am afraid, that might be a little over the top.
Anywho, hope you all have a wonderful, relaxful day. Enjoy the barbeque and fireworks. Stay safe and remember I think about you all with love and fondness.
I am wearing red, white and blue today as I work on 4th of July. What? The English don't celebrate it? ;-) Well tonight I thought you might find it ironic that me, an American, will be celebrating it exclusively with the English I consider my friends. A lot of our friends are coming out to party with us as I celebrate 4th of July. No fireworks I am afraid, that might be a little over the top.
Anywho, hope you all have a wonderful, relaxful day. Enjoy the barbeque and fireworks. Stay safe and remember I think about you all with love and fondness.
Saturday, 28 June 2008
School Trip in Wales
Well I survived! I don't know how, but I did.
Last Sunday I went on an adventure with the school I am currently working for, namely a week long school trip into Wales. There were 12 of my students and 19 of Year 5. I was second in command to the headmaster, Jim, and had lead responsibility for the girls. Wow, first off, lots of medications going around for asthma and hay fever. As a sufferer I am familiar with them, but have no memory of that many students in LA having allergies, nor that many children in my own childhood having any either.
Well, I grabbed my gear, mainly old sweats, trainers, and t-shirts and headed towards the train. These are the only times when I miss a car. I hate dragging suitcases through buses and trains and WALKING with the darn things up and down London's hills. Anywho, somehow I made it to Barking, where my work is, and got on the bus with the students and three Year 5 parents. The trip took 6 hours and luckily no one was sick on the way. One little Year 5 girl, Jessica started to just before we got there but I talked her out of it and distracted her by having her sing "High School Musical" songs to me. Hey, it worked!!!!
Trewern House is an old estate house turned into an activity centre for learning run by the borough I work for, Barking and Dagehham. It is approximately 200 metres from the Welch border near a town called Hay on Wye. It has several wings and tons of fields and forest around it. Absolutely gorgeous!!!!! I had been prepared by Kathy Judge, the deputy head, as to where I should look for a room. I found a nice one at the end of the upper hallway, where the girls were located. I was winging it as I took control of the unpacking and moving of belongings, but fortunately many of my girls had been the year before and coached me as to what to do next. Thank you my ladies.
After the initial dinner, goals, etc, I had to put the girls to bed. Try putting to bed 16 ten and eleven year old girls on their first night away from home. . . it is not easy!!!!!!!!! I actually resorted to telling bedtime stories from Grimms . . thank GOD for my memory! Even then I had to sit outside in between both doorways in the corridor reading my Slash Autobiography until they went to sleep. Great book by the way, for all the G N R fans! Anywho, after that we, the parents, met downstairs to enjoy a bottle of wine and recuperate from the journey. It was nice to get to know the parents, they were very kind and disappointed to learn that I will be teaching Year 5 next term. I however, am not, no pressure for the SATS!!!!! Yes!!!!!
The next morning I had to get the girls to rise and shine by 7 and downstairs by 8 for breakfast. All the students had chores assigned to them on a rotating schedule. It was very summer campish and I felt like I was living my dream of being a camp counselor. It was funny to see the girls scrambling for the shower and then trying to get away with messy rooms and unmade beds! Ha . . . as if I would let them do that! It was also interesting to see which girls and boys were pampered at home . . . Jessica obviously was after it took me three times to get her up and she forgot many things on her way to the shower. She also turned to me at one point and said, "I don't know how to make my bed." Oh boy!!! Thank you Mum and Dad . . . I think you know why.
It was very good that there were two mothers there that week. They were mothers of the boys in Year 5 but still, they were definitely more motherly and patient than me. I am all about getting on with it, I guess I get that from BOTH my parents, but when the kids needed comfort both Michelle and Debbie were there. Thank you to you both as well.
My first day my 12 students and I were going down into a cave. I had been terrified all week since I found out I would have to go through a small small SMALL space called the Post Box. You literally have to be pushed through because it is that tiny. Most of you know . . I AM CLAUSTROPHOBIC!!!!!! I hate tiny spaces and crowds. That is why I always left for work early, avoided traffic, crowded elevators and don't enjoy flying. I can control it. I have learned to get through it for the most part, the London tube has certainly helped, but oh man, I was stilly very scared. But, the moment we got in the cave, Porth yr Ogof in Wales, one of my students freaked so I didn't have time to freak myself. I had to stay strong. It was amazing. My class is very agressive towards each other usually, it comes from their backgrounds. But they helped each other through this whole cave system. The guide was even impressed. One difficult space was called the washing machine. You went down a tiny hole into darkness, found the tunnel and crawled halfway in water until you were out at the base and then crawled back up to the top of the hole. Most of the kids had no problem. But Kamile freaked out when Lisa crawled too far ahead and there was no light to guide her. Barry and Shamari, two of my agressive but saveable boys convinced the hysteric girl to go down in between them. They were so encouraging and selfless that I was in shock and teary eyed. The rest of the cave was one tight crawl space after another. There were so many times I banged my head that I was really glad to have a helmet on. OH, and did I mention the caving suit from heaven! We went down natural waterfalls in those things. Still got soaked, but not too bad. Well, Theo was pouring the water out of his Wellies but that is my Theo after all. He is loveable, but well, I think you get it when I say . . . simple.
Once we got back up to civilization the kids were stoked that they had survived their tight corner and started singing High School Musical songs. Good LORD, even the boys were singing word for word! Then they started singing Old MacDonald and were all fired up. Suddenly my Barry starts improving by saying, "Old MacDonald had a teacher . . . . with a detention there, a detention here, there a detention, here a detention, everywhere a detention!" It was hilarious. He came up with a few more that were really funny, on the spot!
Well, another evening of dinner, games, and trying to put the girls to bed on time. At least afterwards all the adults met downstairs for wine and snacks. Majel's father, the only male parent, played opera, blues, and jazz which was sweet for that time of night. He ended up burning me some CDs so I now have it on my laptop as well. Once we were all tired we went back up to bed and tried to sleep. I had my trusty little mini-DVD player with me, thanks Mom, to help me fall asleep at night.
Next day we were hiking up a mountain. Now I had already had issues getting Lisa up and down the hill from the parking lot to the cave the day before, so I was not looking forward to this day. I couldn't believe I had never realised how babied she was. Fortunately the house, Trewern house, provides boot and other hiking gear for all students and staff. You should have seen their room of boots! Well, we were climbing a place called Hay Bluff, but not only climbing, we were doing a circular climb around, up, and down onto it, which meant we were going further up because it was supposedly easier. Yeah . . . . . easier, (hear the sarcasm in my voice).
We climbed 703 metres, at some points almost vertical, I mean I was crawling up that darn mountain with feet and hands because it was so vertical. AND yes, I did say mountain! I know from watchng that stupid movie, "The Englishman Who Went Up a Hill and Came Down a Mountain" that a mountain is anything over 1,000 feet. 703 metres is 2, 306 feet to be precise, so I am now officially a mountain climber! No, this is not a painting ladies and gents, this is the top of Hay Bluff!
What was really nice was how the kids helped each other, except Lisa, I was a little disappointed in how they didn't really help her. It was like they sensed weakness and did not want to be near her for fear of catching it. So . . . I was stuck with her, being mean, not babying her, punishing her if she sat down, and she sat down quite a lot ladies and gents. She sat and wailed, it wasn't pretty. Teaching has definitely gotten rid of all my mothering skills let me tell you. I felt very much like Mum when one of us is ill . . . " Go take care of yourself and quit bothering me!" Instead I said, "Get up Lisa and quit your wailing, you're annoying me and you can't stop!"
The greatest fun was when we were almost to the top and we saw a sheep on its back. At first we thought it was dead and kept climbing. But then one of the kids saw it move its legs. Our guide, Andy, said that once a sheep gets on its back, it can't get up and it will die. Majel's dad, Cash, walked down to where the sheep was, all the kids following him, running back down the mountain they had just struggled to climb up, screaming, "We are going to save a sheep!!!!" Cash kicked it over as gently as he could and it went running. Only then did we realise that next to it was a small baby lamb who was waiting patiently for someone to help the adult. She ran after her mother and we all realised that two little lives had been saved that day, not just one.
Anyway, we had a good day overall and the hike was a lot of fun, after the huffing and puffing of course.
The next day we went to a mine. You should have seen the students faces when they thought, I was kidding by the way, I wasn't going down with them into the mine. They practically grabbed both my arms and hands and dragged me onto the lift with them. Then they all joined hands as the lift went down. It was neat, and REALLY cold down there. The hardest part was to hear about the horses that were born, lived, and died down there without ever really seeing too much daylight. They had to practically knock them out before they brought them back down into the mine after a holiday. The funniest part was when another boy, who was there with his parents, put a booger on one of my girls coats in the dark during one of the films. Now that was hilarious! The look on her prissy face! Still laughing, sorry, know it is wrong, but yeah, still funny! (laughing to myself yet again)
It was a great trip overall. The girls enjoyed their stories every night and the boys really became less aggressive as the days went on. The scariest thing of all was when we started to get back into London during our return coach trip. The baseball caps came on, the aggressive talk started to pick up and boys that had gotten along started to talk trash to one another. I asked Jim if I was seeing and or hearing things and he said no, that it happens every year, right about this spot on the road. How sad that city life can do that to these boys.
Hopefully next year, since I am staying with this school, I can go again and tell you about new experiences. I already told my boss, Jim, that I am ready to go again. Wales was beautiful! Beautiful! I actually woke up on the coach guiltily disappointed that I was looking at the English hills I have come to love rather than the rolling hills of Wales. But as I said before, on to next year! After all, I didn't get to go canoeing or go along the waterfall walk. Who knows . . . . new adventures await!
Last Sunday I went on an adventure with the school I am currently working for, namely a week long school trip into Wales. There were 12 of my students and 19 of Year 5. I was second in command to the headmaster, Jim, and had lead responsibility for the girls. Wow, first off, lots of medications going around for asthma and hay fever. As a sufferer I am familiar with them, but have no memory of that many students in LA having allergies, nor that many children in my own childhood having any either.
Well, I grabbed my gear, mainly old sweats, trainers, and t-shirts and headed towards the train. These are the only times when I miss a car. I hate dragging suitcases through buses and trains and WALKING with the darn things up and down London's hills. Anywho, somehow I made it to Barking, where my work is, and got on the bus with the students and three Year 5 parents. The trip took 6 hours and luckily no one was sick on the way. One little Year 5 girl, Jessica started to just before we got there but I talked her out of it and distracted her by having her sing "High School Musical" songs to me. Hey, it worked!!!!
Trewern House is an old estate house turned into an activity centre for learning run by the borough I work for, Barking and Dagehham. It is approximately 200 metres from the Welch border near a town called Hay on Wye. It has several wings and tons of fields and forest around it. Absolutely gorgeous!!!!! I had been prepared by Kathy Judge, the deputy head, as to where I should look for a room. I found a nice one at the end of the upper hallway, where the girls were located. I was winging it as I took control of the unpacking and moving of belongings, but fortunately many of my girls had been the year before and coached me as to what to do next. Thank you my ladies.
After the initial dinner, goals, etc, I had to put the girls to bed. Try putting to bed 16 ten and eleven year old girls on their first night away from home. . . it is not easy!!!!!!!!! I actually resorted to telling bedtime stories from Grimms . . thank GOD for my memory! Even then I had to sit outside in between both doorways in the corridor reading my Slash Autobiography until they went to sleep. Great book by the way, for all the G N R fans! Anywho, after that we, the parents, met downstairs to enjoy a bottle of wine and recuperate from the journey. It was nice to get to know the parents, they were very kind and disappointed to learn that I will be teaching Year 5 next term. I however, am not, no pressure for the SATS!!!!! Yes!!!!!
The next morning I had to get the girls to rise and shine by 7 and downstairs by 8 for breakfast. All the students had chores assigned to them on a rotating schedule. It was very summer campish and I felt like I was living my dream of being a camp counselor. It was funny to see the girls scrambling for the shower and then trying to get away with messy rooms and unmade beds! Ha . . . as if I would let them do that! It was also interesting to see which girls and boys were pampered at home . . . Jessica obviously was after it took me three times to get her up and she forgot many things on her way to the shower. She also turned to me at one point and said, "I don't know how to make my bed." Oh boy!!! Thank you Mum and Dad . . . I think you know why.
It was very good that there were two mothers there that week. They were mothers of the boys in Year 5 but still, they were definitely more motherly and patient than me. I am all about getting on with it, I guess I get that from BOTH my parents, but when the kids needed comfort both Michelle and Debbie were there. Thank you to you both as well.
My first day my 12 students and I were going down into a cave. I had been terrified all week since I found out I would have to go through a small small SMALL space called the Post Box. You literally have to be pushed through because it is that tiny. Most of you know . . I AM CLAUSTROPHOBIC!!!!!! I hate tiny spaces and crowds. That is why I always left for work early, avoided traffic, crowded elevators and don't enjoy flying. I can control it. I have learned to get through it for the most part, the London tube has certainly helped, but oh man, I was stilly very scared. But, the moment we got in the cave, Porth yr Ogof in Wales, one of my students freaked so I didn't have time to freak myself. I had to stay strong. It was amazing. My class is very agressive towards each other usually, it comes from their backgrounds. But they helped each other through this whole cave system. The guide was even impressed. One difficult space was called the washing machine. You went down a tiny hole into darkness, found the tunnel and crawled halfway in water until you were out at the base and then crawled back up to the top of the hole. Most of the kids had no problem. But Kamile freaked out when Lisa crawled too far ahead and there was no light to guide her. Barry and Shamari, two of my agressive but saveable boys convinced the hysteric girl to go down in between them. They were so encouraging and selfless that I was in shock and teary eyed. The rest of the cave was one tight crawl space after another. There were so many times I banged my head that I was really glad to have a helmet on. OH, and did I mention the caving suit from heaven! We went down natural waterfalls in those things. Still got soaked, but not too bad. Well, Theo was pouring the water out of his Wellies but that is my Theo after all. He is loveable, but well, I think you get it when I say . . . simple.
Once we got back up to civilization the kids were stoked that they had survived their tight corner and started singing High School Musical songs. Good LORD, even the boys were singing word for word! Then they started singing Old MacDonald and were all fired up. Suddenly my Barry starts improving by saying, "Old MacDonald had a teacher . . . . with a detention there, a detention here, there a detention, here a detention, everywhere a detention!" It was hilarious. He came up with a few more that were really funny, on the spot!
Well, another evening of dinner, games, and trying to put the girls to bed on time. At least afterwards all the adults met downstairs for wine and snacks. Majel's father, the only male parent, played opera, blues, and jazz which was sweet for that time of night. He ended up burning me some CDs so I now have it on my laptop as well. Once we were all tired we went back up to bed and tried to sleep. I had my trusty little mini-DVD player with me, thanks Mom, to help me fall asleep at night.
Next day we were hiking up a mountain. Now I had already had issues getting Lisa up and down the hill from the parking lot to the cave the day before, so I was not looking forward to this day. I couldn't believe I had never realised how babied she was. Fortunately the house, Trewern house, provides boot and other hiking gear for all students and staff. You should have seen their room of boots! Well, we were climbing a place called Hay Bluff, but not only climbing, we were doing a circular climb around, up, and down onto it, which meant we were going further up because it was supposedly easier. Yeah . . . . . easier, (hear the sarcasm in my voice).
We climbed 703 metres, at some points almost vertical, I mean I was crawling up that darn mountain with feet and hands because it was so vertical. AND yes, I did say mountain! I know from watchng that stupid movie, "The Englishman Who Went Up a Hill and Came Down a Mountain" that a mountain is anything over 1,000 feet. 703 metres is 2, 306 feet to be precise, so I am now officially a mountain climber! No, this is not a painting ladies and gents, this is the top of Hay Bluff!
What was really nice was how the kids helped each other, except Lisa, I was a little disappointed in how they didn't really help her. It was like they sensed weakness and did not want to be near her for fear of catching it. So . . . I was stuck with her, being mean, not babying her, punishing her if she sat down, and she sat down quite a lot ladies and gents. She sat and wailed, it wasn't pretty. Teaching has definitely gotten rid of all my mothering skills let me tell you. I felt very much like Mum when one of us is ill . . . " Go take care of yourself and quit bothering me!" Instead I said, "Get up Lisa and quit your wailing, you're annoying me and you can't stop!"
The greatest fun was when we were almost to the top and we saw a sheep on its back. At first we thought it was dead and kept climbing. But then one of the kids saw it move its legs. Our guide, Andy, said that once a sheep gets on its back, it can't get up and it will die. Majel's dad, Cash, walked down to where the sheep was, all the kids following him, running back down the mountain they had just struggled to climb up, screaming, "We are going to save a sheep!!!!" Cash kicked it over as gently as he could and it went running. Only then did we realise that next to it was a small baby lamb who was waiting patiently for someone to help the adult. She ran after her mother and we all realised that two little lives had been saved that day, not just one.
Anyway, we had a good day overall and the hike was a lot of fun, after the huffing and puffing of course.
The next day we went to a mine. You should have seen the students faces when they thought, I was kidding by the way, I wasn't going down with them into the mine. They practically grabbed both my arms and hands and dragged me onto the lift with them. Then they all joined hands as the lift went down. It was neat, and REALLY cold down there. The hardest part was to hear about the horses that were born, lived, and died down there without ever really seeing too much daylight. They had to practically knock them out before they brought them back down into the mine after a holiday. The funniest part was when another boy, who was there with his parents, put a booger on one of my girls coats in the dark during one of the films. Now that was hilarious! The look on her prissy face! Still laughing, sorry, know it is wrong, but yeah, still funny! (laughing to myself yet again)
It was a great trip overall. The girls enjoyed their stories every night and the boys really became less aggressive as the days went on. The scariest thing of all was when we started to get back into London during our return coach trip. The baseball caps came on, the aggressive talk started to pick up and boys that had gotten along started to talk trash to one another. I asked Jim if I was seeing and or hearing things and he said no, that it happens every year, right about this spot on the road. How sad that city life can do that to these boys.
Hopefully next year, since I am staying with this school, I can go again and tell you about new experiences. I already told my boss, Jim, that I am ready to go again. Wales was beautiful! Beautiful! I actually woke up on the coach guiltily disappointed that I was looking at the English hills I have come to love rather than the rolling hills of Wales. But as I said before, on to next year! After all, I didn't get to go canoeing or go along the waterfall walk. Who knows . . . . new adventures await!
Monday, 2 June 2008
My Uncle Ted
Thank you to all who have sent condolences regarding my uncle. The news is sad, but at least he is at peace. I have been thinking a lot about him the last couple of days. Today is the funeral, so I thought a memorial blog appropriate.
My first memory of Uncle Ted was that he was the one that took my father, sister and I in to his home when Dad was going through the divorce. I have always loved roses because of his collection of over 50 types in his yard in California. Even after we moved out, I enjoyed visiting him and his tasty healthy cooking. No really, it was tasty! During one of those pleasant visits, he was the first one to introduce peirogies to Jenny and I. What was really special to me was how he would get so excited whenever he saw Jenny or I approach that he would always giggle. I will remember that lovely giggle the rest of my life.
He was also very generous. As a child he would give me books for my birthdays, encouraging my love of reading. I still have some of them and will cherish them always. As we grew up, he continued to keep giving us gifts. Jenny and I received a large amount of money each, once we had graduated from university, to pay off student loans and any other debt we had.
I never got to tell him how I always looked forward to his birthday card every year. I remember the first one I received after his stroke, the writing was very scribbly, but he simply wrote, I still didn't forget. It always makes me smile when I think of that card. He was going through so much, but didn't forget me. I knew something was wrong when I didn't get one this year, even though I am now in London.
I never got to tell him how much I admired him for scuba diving like he did, with only one leg. That is just the kind of person he was . . brave, adventurous, and
caring. When we were little, Jenny and I had a name for him, Uncle Teddy Bear. That is exactly what he was to us, a loveable, huggable teddy bear. We love you Uncle Ted, always.
Love,
Cory
My first memory of Uncle Ted was that he was the one that took my father, sister and I in to his home when Dad was going through the divorce. I have always loved roses because of his collection of over 50 types in his yard in California. Even after we moved out, I enjoyed visiting him and his tasty healthy cooking. No really, it was tasty! During one of those pleasant visits, he was the first one to introduce peirogies to Jenny and I. What was really special to me was how he would get so excited whenever he saw Jenny or I approach that he would always giggle. I will remember that lovely giggle the rest of my life.
He was also very generous. As a child he would give me books for my birthdays, encouraging my love of reading. I still have some of them and will cherish them always. As we grew up, he continued to keep giving us gifts. Jenny and I received a large amount of money each, once we had graduated from university, to pay off student loans and any other debt we had.
I never got to tell him how I always looked forward to his birthday card every year. I remember the first one I received after his stroke, the writing was very scribbly, but he simply wrote, I still didn't forget. It always makes me smile when I think of that card. He was going through so much, but didn't forget me. I knew something was wrong when I didn't get one this year, even though I am now in London.
I never got to tell him how much I admired him for scuba diving like he did, with only one leg. That is just the kind of person he was . . brave, adventurous, and
caring. When we were little, Jenny and I had a name for him, Uncle Teddy Bear. That is exactly what he was to us, a loveable, huggable teddy bear. We love you Uncle Ted, always.
Love,
Cory
Tuesday, 27 May 2008
John
Well, I have been here almost ten months now. It is hard to believe that my work permit is already half done. I have had so many wonderful experiences so far . . . it is staggering to think that I can do this again for another year! Not that I am going back to LA. Home is London. Home is John. Sorry family, but that is the way it is. I have already looked into renewing my work permit and there are a few agencies interested in me, should TimePlan not renew my contract. I don't think there will be an issue with that, but just in case . . .I am prepared.
Sure the teaching is definitely tougher. But when I get home, I have John to talk to, take care of, go out with, and he takes care of me. It actually gets on my nerves how protective he is sometimes. When I was in LA, I was great at teaching, it was easier, but I didn't have John or his friends. I am so fortunate to have him AND them. I make his friends' girlfriends jealous with the many things he does for me, most recently my spa day and my birthday. I am going to Cabaret on Thursday by the way!!!
Recently I discovered that a few of my elderly relatives may be dying. It got me thinking that maybe they might want to know that I am taken care of. I did kind of spring our relationship on the family all of a sudden without explanation. I know some of you have questions as well, I haven't really informed all of you how we met. So . . . here it goes.
It was my last night in Dublin in June 2005. I had been walking all day with the family from Hope, Indiana that had taken me under their wing. We were to all meet in the hotel pub for a few drinks before the night was over. As we walked into the hotel and went our separate ways, Jimmy, the tour guide, pulled me aside in the lobby and told me that I had to be on the 6 am shuttle. My flight left at 10:3o but the next shuttle after 6 am was a 10 am, and that wouldn't work for an international flight. Well, I still went up, got ready, and met the family down in the pub. I talked with Erin, who was a woman my age in the family, and then went over to hang out with the rest of the family. They were talking to some guys at the edge of the bar. Lo and behold once I began speaking with them I discovered they were English and had just arrived from Bristol on a business trip. Now most of you know, I have always admired the English culture. I consider Jane Austen and Queen Elizabeth I my heroes. So I immediately began talking with one of them about English literature. The conversation went something like this.
Cory: "Oh you're English, I love English literature!"
John: "What, Harry Potter???"
Cory: "No . . . Jane Austen, Thomas Hardy, Charles Dickens, Shakespeare, and Henry Fielding!"
John: "Oh."
After that, John knew I wasn't an ordinary American girl. We discussed many books, movies, and TV series, including the new Lost series. I really enjoyed talking to him. He clumsily flirted with me and I turned him down, but he still kept talking to me, which I gave him props for. It also probably helped that he kept buying me Jameson and Cokes. ;-) Finally, I had to go to sleep if I was going to get up for that shuttle. I told him goodbye, not planning on seeing him again, and he not so smoothly handed me his business card. He says at this point, he didn't plan on seeing me again either, I mean, what are the chances of an Englishman and an American meeting in Ireland of all places, . . . but he thought about me and my smile days after we met.
Anywho, went to sleep, woke up, packed, ate, got on the shuttle, and made it to the airport. While on the airplane I met two more men, Irish students, who were staying in America for three months. We talked for hours and exchanged phone numbers, but they only ever called me once. Meanwhile, I had finally gotten back to my apartment and started to unpack. While preparing my laundry I found John's business card in my jean pocket. I remember thinking, oh he was nice, wouldn't be a bad pen pal. So I wrote him and said that I had a good time talking to him. When he got back from his business trip he wrote me back too. The thing that struck me, was how much he remembered from our conversation. He even remembered that I was a teacher and asked how the kids were treating me.
As we continued to write we became really good friends. John was sort of smitten with me, but I was not with him. First, he wasn't really my type. Second, he was 6,000 miles away. I had just gone through hell and high water with Mike and did not want another impossible relationship. He was always faithful in writing to me but I would sometimes go weeks, even a month before writing him back. Yet, when he came out to visit, I questioned whether I should get into a relationship with him. But again, I didn't. We drove around everywhere, Disneyland, Hollywood, Long Beach, I tried to show him everything. He didn't make a move on me, which I was pleasantly surprised with,a perfect gentleman. I would take his arm occasionally but that was about it. But even then, when my arm was through his, I have to say I did start to feel something. Then he was there when I bought Gidget. I joked with him that it was our cat, because he was there when I got her. After that he would always e-mail me asking how our baby was. Did she eat enough, etc. It was cute.
The two things that really began to sway me in his favour did not happen close together. Basically, I dropped him off at LAX at the end of his visit in February and drove off. But by the time I got home, I realised I missed his company. I even wrote him an e-mail right then and there saying how I missed him and that I had had a really good time hanging out with him. It surprised me how much I missed him. The next thing that happened was when he sent me a birthday present in May of 2006. He gave me a beautiful necklace and a book, but what got me was the book. It was a book on dragons. I love dragons! Yet again, he proved how well he paid attention to what I said and felt. Mom was there when I opened his gift and said he seemed like a nice guy. I said dismissively he wasn't my type, and she said so . . neither was James for Jenny at first. But . . . since Jenny is now Mrs. James Casey, we all know how that turned out. It got me thinking Mom, thanks!
Anywho, about September 2006 I threw myself into therapy after my last failed relationship with an English professor. I also read a quote that said something like I would rather be a young person in therapy and the rest of my life to look forward to rather than an old person in therapy looking back on the life I could have lived. During that time I went through a lot of changes and saw myself a lot differently than I use to. I healed a lot of my hurts and started to break many of the emotional chains that had held me in place for so long. I thought again about my dream to live in London, a dream I hadn't pursued since 2001. I started to look into it, not really telling anyone except my therapist, because I was afraid of discouraging remarks. I figured I had a friend in England and that might make it easier. At the same time, John's company in Bristol was in trouble and he was looking for a new job. He ended up looking for jobs in London and got one with Harper Collins. All the while we were still e-mailing each other as friends. but he would say things like, 'there is no man for you on that side of the Atlantic' or call me beautiful, his American princess, and gorgeous when he addressed me in e-mails. He also listened when we talked, was a great friend, and was always positive about me and my changes. He finally wore me down. I started to have feelings for him.
I didn't really say anything until one day in January when someone from high school found me on my MySpace. This person was extremely annoying back then but I knew he ran into my friend Marsi quite a bit and didn't want to make things difficult for her should she run into him again. So I decided not to block him from my account and added him as a friend. Before I did so, I changed my account to say that I was in a relationship. John noticed and waited for me to announce that I was seeing someone else again. Apparently he hadn't handled the last guy to well, according to his friends. Finally I explained on my own the situation and he acknowledged that it bugged him a little. That is when I bit the bullet and e-mailed him that actually, scared as I was of spoiling our friendship, my heart belonged to him. He e-mailed me immediately from work saying that he felt the same way.
The rest is history. We were pretty much still just friends until I arrived in London last year. Here we are today, still together in London. I can tell you with absolute certainty that I haven't once regretted the day that I turned around and gave him a shot. I do regret that it took me so long to come to my senses, but John keeps telling me that it happened when the time was right and I shouldn't feel guilty.
I come home and there are little gifts waiting for me everyday. Be it a book that he thought might pique my interest, or a meal he thought I might enjoy, he always has something for me. During my last holiday he went out and bought me bagels for breakfast every morning before he went to work. There are so many things that he does for me that I cannot list them all. But I want you to know that I am well taken care of over here. His family and friends sent me numerous cards and gifts for my birthday. I am hardly ever alone, unless I desperately choose to be. John gives me my space, yet will always tell me when he is on his way home, when he has arrived at a work location somewhere in England safely, or when he is going to be late. When we clean house, WE clean the house. He doesn't just sit around and wait for it to be clean, he helps me. When I cook, he does the dishes. When he cooks, I do the dishes. When I start laundry, he finishes it. When I have to take Gidget to the vet, he carries her the whole way on the tube and down the streets.
He will huff and puff when he reads this e-mail, like the traditional English gentleman he is. But, he is so much more than that underneath and I am glad to share that with you. Anywho, hope this answers a lot of your questions.
Sure the teaching is definitely tougher. But when I get home, I have John to talk to, take care of, go out with, and he takes care of me. It actually gets on my nerves how protective he is sometimes. When I was in LA, I was great at teaching, it was easier, but I didn't have John or his friends. I am so fortunate to have him AND them. I make his friends' girlfriends jealous with the many things he does for me, most recently my spa day and my birthday. I am going to Cabaret on Thursday by the way!!!
Recently I discovered that a few of my elderly relatives may be dying. It got me thinking that maybe they might want to know that I am taken care of. I did kind of spring our relationship on the family all of a sudden without explanation. I know some of you have questions as well, I haven't really informed all of you how we met. So . . . here it goes.
It was my last night in Dublin in June 2005. I had been walking all day with the family from Hope, Indiana that had taken me under their wing. We were to all meet in the hotel pub for a few drinks before the night was over. As we walked into the hotel and went our separate ways, Jimmy, the tour guide, pulled me aside in the lobby and told me that I had to be on the 6 am shuttle. My flight left at 10:3o but the next shuttle after 6 am was a 10 am, and that wouldn't work for an international flight. Well, I still went up, got ready, and met the family down in the pub. I talked with Erin, who was a woman my age in the family, and then went over to hang out with the rest of the family. They were talking to some guys at the edge of the bar. Lo and behold once I began speaking with them I discovered they were English and had just arrived from Bristol on a business trip. Now most of you know, I have always admired the English culture. I consider Jane Austen and Queen Elizabeth I my heroes. So I immediately began talking with one of them about English literature. The conversation went something like this.
Cory: "Oh you're English, I love English literature!"
John: "What, Harry Potter???"
Cory: "No . . . Jane Austen, Thomas Hardy, Charles Dickens, Shakespeare, and Henry Fielding!"
John: "Oh."
After that, John knew I wasn't an ordinary American girl. We discussed many books, movies, and TV series, including the new Lost series. I really enjoyed talking to him. He clumsily flirted with me and I turned him down, but he still kept talking to me, which I gave him props for. It also probably helped that he kept buying me Jameson and Cokes. ;-) Finally, I had to go to sleep if I was going to get up for that shuttle. I told him goodbye, not planning on seeing him again, and he not so smoothly handed me his business card. He says at this point, he didn't plan on seeing me again either, I mean, what are the chances of an Englishman and an American meeting in Ireland of all places, . . . but he thought about me and my smile days after we met.
Anywho, went to sleep, woke up, packed, ate, got on the shuttle, and made it to the airport. While on the airplane I met two more men, Irish students, who were staying in America for three months. We talked for hours and exchanged phone numbers, but they only ever called me once. Meanwhile, I had finally gotten back to my apartment and started to unpack. While preparing my laundry I found John's business card in my jean pocket. I remember thinking, oh he was nice, wouldn't be a bad pen pal. So I wrote him and said that I had a good time talking to him. When he got back from his business trip he wrote me back too. The thing that struck me, was how much he remembered from our conversation. He even remembered that I was a teacher and asked how the kids were treating me.
As we continued to write we became really good friends. John was sort of smitten with me, but I was not with him. First, he wasn't really my type. Second, he was 6,000 miles away. I had just gone through hell and high water with Mike and did not want another impossible relationship. He was always faithful in writing to me but I would sometimes go weeks, even a month before writing him back. Yet, when he came out to visit, I questioned whether I should get into a relationship with him. But again, I didn't. We drove around everywhere, Disneyland, Hollywood, Long Beach, I tried to show him everything. He didn't make a move on me, which I was pleasantly surprised with,a perfect gentleman. I would take his arm occasionally but that was about it. But even then, when my arm was through his, I have to say I did start to feel something. Then he was there when I bought Gidget. I joked with him that it was our cat, because he was there when I got her. After that he would always e-mail me asking how our baby was. Did she eat enough, etc. It was cute.
The two things that really began to sway me in his favour did not happen close together. Basically, I dropped him off at LAX at the end of his visit in February and drove off. But by the time I got home, I realised I missed his company. I even wrote him an e-mail right then and there saying how I missed him and that I had had a really good time hanging out with him. It surprised me how much I missed him. The next thing that happened was when he sent me a birthday present in May of 2006. He gave me a beautiful necklace and a book, but what got me was the book. It was a book on dragons. I love dragons! Yet again, he proved how well he paid attention to what I said and felt. Mom was there when I opened his gift and said he seemed like a nice guy. I said dismissively he wasn't my type, and she said so . . neither was James for Jenny at first. But . . . since Jenny is now Mrs. James Casey, we all know how that turned out. It got me thinking Mom, thanks!
Anywho, about September 2006 I threw myself into therapy after my last failed relationship with an English professor. I also read a quote that said something like I would rather be a young person in therapy and the rest of my life to look forward to rather than an old person in therapy looking back on the life I could have lived. During that time I went through a lot of changes and saw myself a lot differently than I use to. I healed a lot of my hurts and started to break many of the emotional chains that had held me in place for so long. I thought again about my dream to live in London, a dream I hadn't pursued since 2001. I started to look into it, not really telling anyone except my therapist, because I was afraid of discouraging remarks. I figured I had a friend in England and that might make it easier. At the same time, John's company in Bristol was in trouble and he was looking for a new job. He ended up looking for jobs in London and got one with Harper Collins. All the while we were still e-mailing each other as friends. but he would say things like, 'there is no man for you on that side of the Atlantic' or call me beautiful, his American princess, and gorgeous when he addressed me in e-mails. He also listened when we talked, was a great friend, and was always positive about me and my changes. He finally wore me down. I started to have feelings for him.
I didn't really say anything until one day in January when someone from high school found me on my MySpace. This person was extremely annoying back then but I knew he ran into my friend Marsi quite a bit and didn't want to make things difficult for her should she run into him again. So I decided not to block him from my account and added him as a friend. Before I did so, I changed my account to say that I was in a relationship. John noticed and waited for me to announce that I was seeing someone else again. Apparently he hadn't handled the last guy to well, according to his friends. Finally I explained on my own the situation and he acknowledged that it bugged him a little. That is when I bit the bullet and e-mailed him that actually, scared as I was of spoiling our friendship, my heart belonged to him. He e-mailed me immediately from work saying that he felt the same way.
The rest is history. We were pretty much still just friends until I arrived in London last year. Here we are today, still together in London. I can tell you with absolute certainty that I haven't once regretted the day that I turned around and gave him a shot. I do regret that it took me so long to come to my senses, but John keeps telling me that it happened when the time was right and I shouldn't feel guilty.
I come home and there are little gifts waiting for me everyday. Be it a book that he thought might pique my interest, or a meal he thought I might enjoy, he always has something for me. During my last holiday he went out and bought me bagels for breakfast every morning before he went to work. There are so many things that he does for me that I cannot list them all. But I want you to know that I am well taken care of over here. His family and friends sent me numerous cards and gifts for my birthday. I am hardly ever alone, unless I desperately choose to be. John gives me my space, yet will always tell me when he is on his way home, when he has arrived at a work location somewhere in England safely, or when he is going to be late. When we clean house, WE clean the house. He doesn't just sit around and wait for it to be clean, he helps me. When I cook, he does the dishes. When he cooks, I do the dishes. When I start laundry, he finishes it. When I have to take Gidget to the vet, he carries her the whole way on the tube and down the streets.
He will huff and puff when he reads this e-mail, like the traditional English gentleman he is. But, he is so much more than that underneath and I am glad to share that with you. Anywho, hope this answers a lot of your questions.
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